For Families & Patients

Palliative care supports people with a life-limiting illness and their families to live, die and grieve well.
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How you feel

Coming to terms with an illness that is unlikely to be cured takes time.It is natural to feel a range of emotions – fear, anger, loss, frustration and loss of hope. Open and honest communication can help. It can also bring loved ones closer together.

Saying the things that matter

Having open, honest conversations with the people who matter most to you can help you and them.

Saying four things to those you love at this time can be very helpful to you and them. They are: ‘thank you’, ‘I love you’, ‘forgive me’ and ‘I forgive you’.

If there is conflict or an issue of concern in your family or with close friends, help is available. Pastoral care workers, social workers, counsellors or spiritual leaders can help.

Support with emotions

When you are ill it can be harder to deal with everyday frustrations. You may feel angry and upset.

It can be helpful to talk with someone you trust. This can help you to understand and deal with your emotions.

If you are frustrated with the care or services you are receiving, discuss this with your doctor or palliative care team. They are there to help.

Loss of hope and depression

Fears and concerns about your illness may make you lose hope. Talking with a counsellor may help you understand your emotions and find ways to improve how you feel.

Sometimes, hopelessness is a sign of depression. Depression is an illness and medication may help you, so talk to your doctor.